Today, my lovely wife Gail and I celebrate 15 years of marriage as we received the Sacrament of Matrimony on Saturday, July 8, 2000 at St. Paul Parish in Richmond on a beautiful and sunny day.
On our 15th wedding anniversary, here are 15 things I’ve learned about through marriage; they are all essential aspects of our union. This isn’t an exhaustive list, and some of the things might not ring true for other couples.
But these are things that I believe we hold true and dear to our hearts. Some of these things I’ve learned directly from Gail, other things more indirectly. She may have even learned a thing or two from me. And we’ve learned many of these things together as a couple.
Last Friday afternoon, I played in the annual “Teachers vs. Grade 7 Students” volleyball game at St. Paul School. The raucous gym was deafening at times with the excited students cheering, clapping, and screaming. Kayla and Jake (along with his gold medal winning buddies from grade 6) were among the crowd. Sean didn’t have school that day, so he came to referee – making it a family affair.
All of the teachers rotated through and it just so happened that Gail came on right after me. So whenever we were on the court together, we were playing right beside each other.
I’m very competitive when it comes to sports, even if it’s a fun, mean-nothing game. My lovely wife Gail, however, is the exact opposite. In fact, when she came on the court, she whispered to me, “You’re going to have to help me.”
During one particular rally, the ball came over the net to our side and went towards Gail. Gail didn’t really react and thus the ball dropped beside her. I tried to give her a loving and affirming smile while dying inside.
Advent is about waiting. Anticipating. Expecting. Preparing. Hoping. This sounds a lot like youth ministry to me.
We wait for youth to commit their lives to Jesus. We wait for them so we can start our youth gatherings. We wait for their parents to come pick them up at the end of our events.
We anticipate the arrival of youth at our gatherings with our eyes fixated on the door. We anticipate their confusion or their silence when we are preparing small group discussions. We anticipate their excitement when we announce the dates of retreats and rallies.